A bullying spouse is getting down their partner in direction of feel better about these guys.
~Janvrin & Selleck.
This quote is self-explanatory and that is personally relevant to every member of a spousal-type relationship, for bullying there's no label so much as a general behaviour we get into while we are ruled by fear.
So many resist the term "bully" as it's stigmatised.
Yet a bully is characterised not which has a personality trait of bullying but and behaviour of bullying.
For who ever who's partaking in bullying behaviour and making life hell with the partner, there must be time to identify the source of their fear and strive useless, feeling hopeful and "safe" again--perhaps even like never before. (This is one objective God is great. ) Be worried about and aggression are inherently linked; as is often to them (though not always), Symptoms Of Depression.
This wife, if they're not normally characterised by this behaviour, may just need to be gently but firmly reminded that this behaviour really should not be tolerated.
For the person who's recipients of the bullying, perhaps you're ready to do some thinking. Is the partner characterised by asking behaviour? Do they bully others too plus you? Is it only specific times or periods that there is bully? One thing for sure, they must be feel an adult "boundary" conversation when they've cooled off. Try not to wait this.
Staying "adult, "[1] strong and emotion-free the real key. Obviously relationship counselling is advised. The problem needs probably going to be addressed.
Finally, to the person who's doing the bullying--and everyone's "bullied" people, without exception--find the source of your unhappiness and loss of self-worth. It will be entirely worth the search, personally and interpersonally. Safety and peace will appear yours (and theirs).
(c) 2010 TILIS. J. Wickham.
[1] Remembering adult behaviour is well-designed, responsible, reasonable, reliable, true to life and logical. In other words, it's emotion-free.
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